What do you do when your expectations are shattered ? In some cases not even expectations but promises which people around you , made to you , when you did not even ask for them.
Promises are very powerful things, and its very rightly said never make one when angry or too happy.
When something is promised to you/assured to you , your brain starts creating impulses in it , creating new neural circuits and blah blah , in short you start THINKING about that particular thing , Thinking is getting indulged and getting indulged is getting emotionally attached , and there's where the problems begin.
Imagine you have been promised something , and after a long time , the promise is turned down..
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You have adequate questions to ask , to contradict , bring down their point of view etc BUT YOU DON'T ! because a sadness takes over , an emotional aura surrounds you , you are heartbroken .
If you are an aggressive person , there's an urge to weigh the person against you with questions in high tones , if you are emotional - you cry . and MOST IMPORTANTLY even if you are strong , you shatter.
After this stage there are two things that can happen , either you loose a part of your love for that person
OR , you stay positive and strong and let the emotional aura surrounding you go.
IN BOTH THE CASES,
There creates a broken stair your in relationship staircase.
No matter how many times you pass the staircase , you have to skip that step, ignore those memories , ignore those situation , not let them overcome you. But if in any case you are not strong enough to skip the step . you'll get stuck , or you'll FALL, getting injured , emotionally.
I have something to say to both , the promise maker and the one to who is promised.
To the promise maker- My friend i know circumstances have been harsh or somethings made you act so , but if you've made a promise just before plainly saying no , TRY TO FULFILL IT!
There's no harm in trying , at-least you tried! The one you promised to will understand that you tried , and is the best explanation you can give to yourself!
Because , once a promise is broken --> A Broken stair is created and you now know its consequences.
To the one who was promised : It's okay friend , life is not always as you expect it to be . If the person is constantly breaking promises , things will be tough , and you'll have to get tougher , believe me it seems and feels hard in the beginning , but as you grow you'll love yourselves to be able to handle such situations .
but if not and its occasional flush those memories , try indulging in some hobby for the time span , music is the food to our souls - use it. Always most importantly , remember one thing in your future relationship - ALWAYS SKIP THAT BROKEN STAIR .
रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाय।
टूटे से फिर ना जुड़े, जुड़े गाँठपरि जाय॥Meaning : Rahim says, don’t allow the delicate thread of love between people to snap. If it breaks once, it cannot be mended, even if you mend it there will be a knot in it, which means there will always be some awkwardness in the relationship.
Have a good day ahead , loads of love, happiness and healing energies to you :)
